By Dr. Jim Dahle, WCI Founder
We have seemingly endless discussions around here in the blog comments section and on the forum about paying for private school, both for K-12 and for college. We had an awesome discussion after a Pro/Con post a few months ago (Should Your Kid Go to a Private School?) that was particularly enlightening. The bottom line in the comments section was that the differences from one public school to another and from one private school to another probably dwarf the difference between the average public and the average private school. Not to mention the entire discussion delves into serious life topics including religion, politics, child-rearing, race, upbringing, culture, and even financial philosophy. Today, however, we're going to focus entirely on the financial aspect of this decision. Everyone acknowledges that private K-12 is a “big rock” when it comes to your finances so with this post I'm going to discuss just how big that rock is. As you read, keep this caveat in mind: If you can afford private school while meeting reasonable financial goals and you value it, spend your money on whatever you like. That's economics- we splurge on what matters most to us and (hopefully) economize elsewhere in order to afford it. Okay, on to the post.
Public or Private Is the Wrong Question
When discussing private vs public school, I think most people are asking the wrong question. They're asking a simplistic question:
Should I put my kids in the public schools or should I pony up and pay for private school?
or
Should my kid go to State U or Fancy Private University?
I think the right question is this one:
Would my kid prefer
- A private education or
- A public education and a choice between a free, comfortable retirement at 50 or a luxurious retirement at 60?
The Opportunity Cost of Public vs Private
You see, paying for private school very early in life involves a cost that many don't consider- the opportunity cost of that money compounded over decades. So while I acknowledge it is quite possible that a private school could provide a superior education to a public school in many instances, my argument would be that the education often isn't sufficiently superior to justify the cost. Let me explain.
The local private K-12 closest to my house is $24K a year. If we assume 5% real returns on that money, by the time that child is 60 years old, the cost adds up to $3.5 Million
- =FV(5%,13,-24000,0,1) = $446,367
- =FV(5%,42,0,-446367,1) = $3,464,516.55
Multiply that by 4%, and that's an annuity that pays $139K a year in today's dollars starting at age 60 (or $85K at age 50). That's like a nice military retirement without that pesky 20 years of military service. Quibble with the numbers all you like, but it's a massive sum anyway you look at it, especially in a multiple child household.
What If You Include College in the Cost?
It gets even worse if you include the cost of college. Consider the cost of in-state tuition at the flagship state university here in Utah. It's about $7K a year. If you live at home, your living expenses should be very inexpensive, perhaps a few thousand. We'll call it $10K for ease of calculation. Or your kid could go to NYU at $52K a year, plus another $18K in living expenses for a total of $70K. Let's consider the difference ($60K per year) How does that change the figures?
- =FV(5%,4,-60000,0,1) +FV(5%,4,0,-446367,1) = $814,100
- =FV(5%,38,0,-814100,1)= $5,198,417
Multiply by 4% and that's $208K a year. Or retire 10 years earlier on $128K a year. I don't think I need to add grad school into the calculation to make my point. Most physicians don't retire on $200K+ a year.
So really, it's your choice. Fund your kid's private education or fund their public education AND their early retirement. It's the same price. I know which one I would have chosen as a kid if it had been presented to me like this.
Now, to be fair, most parents with kids in public schools aren't saving the difference and giving it to their kids for their retirement. They're spending it themselves on wakeboats, vacations, Teslas, or their own retirement. But they could. And doing the math illustrates just how big a rock that a private school education represents. It likely costs more than your own professional education, your big fancy doctor house, and even your transportation costs. It's a big resource commitment, so make sure it's worth it to you.
Comparing Big Rocks
What if we compare this “big rock” to other big rocks? The typical big rocks cited by white coat investors include the following:
- Housing
- Location (State taxes and Cost of Living)
- Transportation
- College Education
- Private K-12
- Vacations
Let's take them each one by one and try to make some kind of comparison or ranking.
Housing
Yes, the ticket price is large and the maintenance cost (typically 2% of its value), upgrade costs, insurance costs, and tax costs are not insignificant. But working in its favor are two factors- # 1 it is consumed over many years and # 2 you get a fair amount of the value back out when it sells. Consider a $500K house. Let's say there's a $400K 4% mortgage and a $10K annual property tax bill. The 30 year mortgage payment is =PMT(4%$,30,400000,0,0) = -$23,132 per year. Add on the taxes and it's $33,132 per year. Add a couple thousand in insurance and $10k in maintenance costs and you're at about $45K/year. Maybe it appreciated 3% this year, so that's $15K added back in. Plus even in year one you paid down about $7K in principal with those payments, so we'll subtract that too. That leaves you $23K per year. Let's compare to private school. We'll just use the local one close to me, although there are obvious more and less expensive schools around the country. $24K/year. I've got four kids, but let's assume this is for a family with just two- $48K/year, more than twice the entire cost of housing.
Location
A big part of location-related expenses is the cost of housing, addressed above. If you're in a place where you have to buy a million dollar house (or more) then that could get you into the range of having two kids in private school. But another big consideration is state income taxes. In Nevada, a doc making $300K is paying $0 in state income taxes. In Utah, that same doctor is probably paying something like $12K in taxes. In California, that tax bill is probably more like $24K in state income taxes. That's only one kid in private school.
Transportation
What about expensive cars? Well, I think you can drive a beater for a cost of about $1K/year (including depreciation and repairs, but not gas and routine maintenance.) A much nicer car bought new likely costs about $5K/year, a $4K/year difference. Even in a two car household, that's only $8K/year, 1/6th the cost of private school.
College Education
Let's say you plan to have a very nice 529 for each kid- $200K, by the time they turn 18. If you assume 5% real returns on your savings and you start when they're born, that'll cost you =PMT(5%,18,0,200000,1) = $6,800 per year, or $13,600 for two kids. Far less than the $48K/year private school bill.
Vacations
You can spend a lot of money on vacation. If you rarely go, and drive your car and either camp or stay with family when you do, perhaps you can get away with $1,000 per year. Two international trips for four? That could be $30K/year, a $29K difference. Still less than the cost of private school tuition.
So where does that leave us if we're trying to rank these in some kind of objective way?
Big Rock Rankings
- Private School
- Fancy vacations
- Housing
- Location/State Income Taxes
- College Education
- Transportation
Yes, this is a process that is very individual to every family. Some families will have four or more kids in school. Others are talented travel-hackers who go to Asia for cheap. Others live in Manhattan and scoff at what a mere $1M would buy and don't think a $75K car is “nice.” But any way you slice it, private school is nowhere near the bottom of the list of “big rocks.”
What do you think? Is it fair to look at it this way? Would you actually consider giving your kid the money you would have spent on their private education? Why or why not? How would you rank the big rocks in your life? Comment below!

I’m going to say that not only are most people not thinking of this, they aren’t capable of thinking of this. Here is a thread from another website on this exact issue:
[ – ] For MC and UMC folks (net worth less than 5 mm not including primary residence) I must know- do parents actually consider the true financial cost of private school? Do they just consider the educational aspects, or do they consider the one million plus they could easily gift their kids at age 18 if they forewent private school tuition? I’m not arguing either way, just wondering how people frame the question. 23 Replies [ REPLY | STOP WATCHING | MORE ]
»We did. [ REPLY | MORE ]
»How so, and what was your thought process? [ REPLY | MORE ]
»You spend more time at school than you do at home during your choldhood — it’s important. [ REPLY | MORE ]
»This is true. It is important. But you spend more years working, and paid work is really bad these days. [ REPLY | MORE ]
»I’ll answer. Our net worth is under a million. My parents wanted the kids in private school. They set up a trust to do it. Their exact words were “we want you to make decisions as if money doesn’t matter” – and we are doing that. There are some schools I would pay for and others I would not – not related to tt – and both kids ended up in places that seem good for them. Do I wonder if I made the right decision? For one, yes, she could be good anywhere. For the other, I think absolutely worth every penny to give him a better childhood that fits his particular needs and skills sets. [ REPLY | MORE ]
»But they didn’t offer the alternative of gifting the kids a million each at 18, right? So they basically controlled the decision. [ REPLY | MORE ]
»It’s kind of odd to suggest making a decision as though money didn’t matter. Money matters if your NW category. [ REPLY | MORE ]
»This is a wonderful gift. You are lucky. Grandparents who can do this should offer it more so than any other gift. [ REPLY | MORE ]
»Some might consider the true cost of not giving their children what they believe to be the best education. [ REPLY | MORE ]
»But do they consider the true value a million dollars? I think people look at it as 50k a year and not getting a summer house, not 1 million dollars to gift your kid or pay for grad school. [ REPLY | MORE ]
»Only the rich plan to gift big sums to their children or pay for grad school. Many feel they are responsible for giving the child the best start and then the child takes it from there. [ REPLY | MORE ]
»OP- First of all, thank you for the responses. I agree that’s what many feel, but does it lead to the happiest, most productive, best life? [ REPLY | MORE ]
»For some people, education is everything. It means more than a Mercedes, fancy vacations and expensive clothes. [ REPLY | MORE ]
»So, you are reframing. No one is forcing anyone to spend a million on cars. But that million could be spent on grad school, medical school, or other forms of education. Or art classes or violin classes. From this answer I’m going to say that for the most part, the answer is “no.” [ REPLY | MORE ]
»Sure, but it is more customary for parents to provide for a child through the age of 18 and loans after that are very common. [ REPLY | MORE ]
»Sure, it’s customary, but is it the best financial move? My guess is not. [ REPLY | MORE ]
»NP- I am deeply involved with the FIRE community, and we spend a lot of time discussing this. The general consensus among our merry band of iconoclasts is that paid work, including all the formerly fun fields like medicine, law, and academics, are becoming intolerably bad, and that private and state school plus help with down payments/grad school/retirement funds is actually a better use of money/educational time in a society with increasing RE costs, self-funded retirements, and horrifyingly bad paid work options. [ REPLY | MORE ]
»We have around $5m excluding residence- kid will have enough money left to her when we die (or at age 18 if we choose) regardless of private school spend or not. [ REPLY | MORE ]
»Makes sense. [ REPLY | MORE ]
»We thought about it. The thing for us is, we got the money for private school year by year by cutting back on luxuries, especially vacations and planned home renovations that we joke about doing after college graduation. So there would not have been a big pot of money at the end of DD’s schooling; we just would have had a different lifestyle (and probably an apartment with more than one bathroom) throughout. [ REPLY | MORE ]
»OP- Thank you for your response. Curious as to why there wouldn’t have been a big pot of money- why couldn’t you have put that all in an index fund (instead of funding private school or a bathroom or Iceland) and let it compound? [ REPLY | MORE ]
»You know that barely anyone who stays in public actually saves that money and gifts it to kids at the age of 18 or 25 or whatever, correct? The money (after retirement and college saving) just gets spent regardless. And it is up to your personal preference how exactly you want to spend it. [ REPLY | MORE ]
»OP- Yes, but what I’m trying to figure out is why not. If you have it to spend on private school, don’t you have it to save? It’s the same money. [ REPLY | MORE ]
1. I would like to add one more thing to the analysis.
One can expect that going to a private school with its better education will result in better financial outcomes for the children. Let’s quantify this. How much more money (after tax) the private school / private college kid should earn per year to earn the same retirement at 60 as the public school kid whose parents invested in his retirement rather than his private school?
FV(5%,38,-46000,0,1) is equal to the same $5.2 million. So, every year the private school kid should earn $46k more after tax than the public school kid to have the same retirement. How likely is that? Not very likely, for most kids.
2. For us, personally, a local private school would only be $12k a year (rather than $24k) and the college price difference (say, Harvard vs Stony Brook) would be slightly more than $40k a year (instead of $60k). With these numbers, the private school kid should earn $26k more after tax to get even with the public school kid by age 60. This is somewhat more doable. My kid has not started his first grade yet so we have time to decide.
3. Finally, I think the decision of private-vs-public should also take into account the inheritance that the kid will get from you for his retirement.
If she is expected to get close to nothing from you if you send her to a private school then it is a safer choice to send her to a public school and invest the difference. This is a protection against financial ruin in case she is not very successful. If she is unable to save much during her career, she will still have a comfortable retirement.
On the other hand, if you are able to leave her a good chunk of money even if you send her to a private school, then this decision will not have catastrophic consequences for her retirement down the road, regardless of her career and financial success in life. Then, you can go private just as well. I think this applies to most financially savvy doctors on this site with 1 or 2 kids.
Obviously, the decision depends on the number of kids as well. More kids in private schools lead to larger expenses which leads to a smaller sum of money left to heirs. When divided between a larger number of kids, it results in a much smaller inheritance for each and a higher likelihood that it will be insufficient for their retirement unless all of them are financially successful in their own right.
I’m a private school grad. Looking at the outcomes of myself and my former classmates, I do question the ‘value’ of my education. I think so many parents blindly throw money at “education” saying it’s the best investment, etc. without actually thinking it thru much at all. I’m surrounded by people like that and I’ve come to doubt it. Some studies suggest that public vs private is barely a difference after accounting for such things like socioeconomic status, etc. I tend to agree. I went to private middle/high school, public and private colleges, and it really is what you make of it and there’s no knowing how someone will turn out. My top-tier high school kids did drugs, drank, steal, got kicked out. My slacker classmates are now lawyers, doctors. The stud HS student had to go rehab after college. Plenty classmates went to State college that any decent public school kid can get into, and many went on to become teachers, firemen, etc. The only advantage I saw for my private school was nicer facilities, extra-curriculars, clubs, AP and a generally better classmates (i.e. aptitude, behavior, family income). How do you quantify those advantage and are they worth it? At my alma mater, currently $25k/yr, that’s $1M in 40yrs at 3% real (for k-12) or 500k (for 7-12). That’s a significant amount. There’s always the expectation that we, as high earners, would send our kids to my alma mater, most high-earner parents do. But it also creates somewhat an elitist environment and sometimes it honestly feels like parents are doing more for themselves, for bragging rights, to flash their wealth/status, or to feel like they are doing the “best” for their child. A lot of these parents seem to expect the school to take care of everything allowing the parents to be hands off as much as possible. With college degrees being how they are now, student loan debt, career uncertainties, competitive job markets, wage stagnation, etc., I think there is something to be said to giving our child a financial boost instead of a career/education boost.